When Stress Overwhelmes Us..

How to deal with stress that is over the top? What happens when work, life, and family have taken it's toll on you? Most of us will shut down, some will become moody, some will outrage at the one closest to them, some will do all of the above. Why does stress turn the most gentle person into an unapproachable person and why does it seem we aren't able to confront the "right" demon?

Well for many of us not willing to have a confrontation is the reason we do any of the above outcomes. The best way to handle stress is first find it root, are you stress because of work, family issues, finances? Finding the root helps get right to the problem, only if you are able to tackle that particular problem.

What to do if it is a coworker? What to do if it is finances that you can't pull through? Well, teh only thing you can do address it and see where it goes. You can't change things that aren't in your controld must of us stress over things that are out of our control. Have you gone home from a stressful work day becuase everything and anything went wrong? What part of that where you able to control? I'll bet on maybe 20% if that. How about when a few of your appliances break down? Any control in that? Maybe you put too many towels in your washing machine, that you can control. Anything else, is a pretty strong certainty that you have no control over. Why do we stress over things we can't control?

Ever thought of the path we were meant to walk? Stress is evil, it's evilness gets into our minds, bodies, and souls and does the talking and reacting for us. How often have you thought back and realized that wasn't you talking? First question, are you able to apologize and admit you were wrong. Second question, do you think about the chain of events that occurred for you to have reacted in a regretful way?

Speaking for myself, it used to be that a stressful day would happen I would come home and didn't so much react to much but would be very distant and just thankful for that day to be over. After the stress came to be day in and day out I became that devil. I yelled about anything and everything at my family, my friends, my coworkers, and my boss. It took me a good few months to realize what was at the root. I had continually assumed it was everyone else. I was reacting as I should, until my reality set in and I was the one being out of line. I made the change that needed to happen for me. With that decision a new set of rules is in play a new line of stress is going to grow into my world. How do I avoid this not getting too deep for me to handle?

My advice to me and the any of you that have these thoughts.

First, stop wanting to have the control! Second, reflect on the day see what you enjoyed see what brought you down and avoid the downer! Third, when something happens that does bring pressure/stress/anger let it go on the spot. Someone pisses you off, laugh about it, but realize why it pissed you off. Are you being too sensitive? Are you overreacting?

I am pretty sure the saying goes, Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. You react positively, positive things will happen. You react negatively, the cloud of negativity will linger above.