I wake up going through the strides of life, hoping for a change but effortless to change it. I am filled with emptiness, hatred, frustration, and devastation. Too ignorant to acknowledge the failure I am surrounded by. How do I stop this path how do I redirect my future. Scared and alone, with lots of people to talk but no one to turn to. I can't put this on auto drive and hope for the right destination. I am lost in my soul fighting for an exit. Why can't I find the strength others say I have inside.
I don't know how it happened, or why I am still dealing with it. I watched more than enough, I've endeared more than my share, I have struggled for too long. But I stand still, ignoring the hatred and bottling it up. The wisdom I preach is not the wisdom I walk. I ache inside, I have tears that can't fall. I am crushed in this moment and admitting it all.
Why do I do it, why to I accept it. Do I truly feel I am not worth it.
hen
A relationship should speak of love, happiness, and be cherished. The one I live I hide and run with it. Telling all my possy it's my dream world and proud to live it. I am angry and mad, but have no other outlet. I tick like a bomb, and laugh to hide it. Suddenly, the anger spills all around me, and the true dark colors shoot at him like a magnet.
I look around and ask others to fix it. But I am the one that chooses to live it.
Why doesn't the mirror talk back at me, why can't I see it. The sadness that's lives inside a broken hearted women in love with an alcoholic. I am cheated on everyday with the sip that fills the bottle. The friends that are absent as he sits on his bar seat and laughs with his bottle.
I am disgusted with this life and scared to even address it. I am a coward and I am no longer proud of it.
Stand by me somehow, be the support I need. Give me the crutch the helps me stand on both feet. I beg for support I ache for the help. A cowardly little girl that just wants to close her eyes and run from the pain.
He can't love his daughter when he has only one desire, it's to drink his world into a drunken sorrow, unhappy in his world he brings us down hard. Taking her heart with each lie he tells her. She smiles at her dad, believe he loves her. Her heart will break each time he disappoints her. She will look at mom and wonder why she left him hurt her. She will blame me for giving her a dad that's an alcoholic. If I can't be strong now I won't be strong then. Oh my when will this end.
Monday, August 15, 2011
Wednesday, August 10, 2011
Sunday, August 7, 2011
It's Time to Dress Yourself
Today Caitlin is dressing herself. Where does Caitlin start when she gets dressed? When she woke up she had her pajamas on? She thought about what she was to do first... Well she had to take off her jammies before she could put on her school clothes. Her first step was to take her night gown off and so she did. She squiggled here and pulled there, she had a tough time but soon was able to get her little arms and head out of her night gown, but how was she to put her school shirt on? There were three holes two looked the same and one looked odd? When she looked in the mirror she noticed her arms were the same and her head was definitely a different size. So she tried to put her head in the arm hole?? well that's not going to work she said to the mirror, so she looked again. This time when she tried she put her head into the hole to looked odd the first time. This time it worked her head was in the spot and her arms quickly followed.
Her mommy was watching her quietly, she looked into Caitlin's bedroom and smiled. "Wow look at you? You really can dress yourself, Caitlin. You really really can. I am so proud of you, show me how those school pants go over your feet?? Show me, let me see."
Caitlin looked at her mom and thought I can you'll see. She looked at the pants and the same thing she saw was two holes small and one that was large. She looked in her mirror and thought again... Hmmmm I have two little legs with two little feet and just one waist here as she pointed then thought. I bet these two go here and that part goes there. Let's try this and see oh my yep tadaa.... And she turned to her mom and said, "look at me. I'm dressed, I have on my clothes and I did it myself."
Her mom gave her a hand and a big snuggly hug they were proud together little Caitlin can dress herself with the help of her mirror.
Her mommy was watching her quietly, she looked into Caitlin's bedroom and smiled. "Wow look at you? You really can dress yourself, Caitlin. You really really can. I am so proud of you, show me how those school pants go over your feet?? Show me, let me see."
Caitlin looked at her mom and thought I can you'll see. She looked at the pants and the same thing she saw was two holes small and one that was large. She looked in her mirror and thought again... Hmmmm I have two little legs with two little feet and just one waist here as she pointed then thought. I bet these two go here and that part goes there. Let's try this and see oh my yep tadaa.... And she turned to her mom and said, "look at me. I'm dressed, I have on my clothes and I did it myself."
Her mom gave her a hand and a big snuggly hug they were proud together little Caitlin can dress herself with the help of her mirror.
Wednesday, August 3, 2011
Twice the Family
I am thankful for all of my situations I have been faced with, especially since they all have molded me into becoming the person I am today. I am not always
100% proud of my choices or decisions, but the beauty in life is htat we most often have another chance, to fogive, to improve, and to make the best of it all.
I have chosen to talk about a challenge I face, even today, with my son and his father. My son's father and I split up when Gavin was 16 months old. While any
break up is tough to with, I won't be discussing that. We made a decision to give up and in htat the of Gavin's life and ours will be normal to Gavin but
certainly nothing I was ever familiar with.
I came from a very solid family, Sunday dinners, picnics, and evening fin in the back yard. Most often it was my immediate family that brought all the fun and
joy. The reality is, not all the rest of the world had that life. When teh time came where my son could start communicating and asking the whys, I was very
sensitive to his feelings, assuming he felt he had missed out on what a family is. It wasn't until my mother said to me; this is all that Gavin knows. He knows his
mom and dad are not together. SO it dawned on me, that Gavin has more than a family together. He gets to twice the family.
As simple as that all sounds, it wasn't so simple, at one point it ached my heart when I would see his smile when talking about the "other" mom. It naturally is
going to crush any mom to know someone else is capable of loving and caring for you child, in time, that pain goes away and a sense of security for your child
takes over. To know that others love him as much as you do, it helps make sense of the situation. His father finding a stable family to raise him in is a
difficult mountain of emotions to climb, but you and will be able to overcome the challenge that you will face in a break up; as long as the decision was made
for the greater good.
Giving up on a relationship is not an easy decision to make, not one that I would recommend. I hope this gives many the opportunity to see that parents who
have chosen to seperate don't have to have a negative relationship when raising children. Learn to compromise, learn to pick your battles, and learn to put
you children first.
As I stated in my first paragraph, I am not proud of all of my decisions, but all of my decisions are why I am where I am today! So take a look at your decisions,
how'd you get to where you are standing today? Ever think about that?
100% proud of my choices or decisions, but the beauty in life is htat we most often have another chance, to fogive, to improve, and to make the best of it all.
I have chosen to talk about a challenge I face, even today, with my son and his father. My son's father and I split up when Gavin was 16 months old. While any
break up is tough to with, I won't be discussing that. We made a decision to give up and in htat the of Gavin's life and ours will be normal to Gavin but
certainly nothing I was ever familiar with.
I came from a very solid family, Sunday dinners, picnics, and evening fin in the back yard. Most often it was my immediate family that brought all the fun and
joy. The reality is, not all the rest of the world had that life. When teh time came where my son could start communicating and asking the whys, I was very
sensitive to his feelings, assuming he felt he had missed out on what a family is. It wasn't until my mother said to me; this is all that Gavin knows. He knows his
mom and dad are not together. SO it dawned on me, that Gavin has more than a family together. He gets to twice the family.
As simple as that all sounds, it wasn't so simple, at one point it ached my heart when I would see his smile when talking about the "other" mom. It naturally is
going to crush any mom to know someone else is capable of loving and caring for you child, in time, that pain goes away and a sense of security for your child
takes over. To know that others love him as much as you do, it helps make sense of the situation. His father finding a stable family to raise him in is a
difficult mountain of emotions to climb, but you and will be able to overcome the challenge that you will face in a break up; as long as the decision was made
for the greater good.
Giving up on a relationship is not an easy decision to make, not one that I would recommend. I hope this gives many the opportunity to see that parents who
have chosen to seperate don't have to have a negative relationship when raising children. Learn to compromise, learn to pick your battles, and learn to put
you children first.
As I stated in my first paragraph, I am not proud of all of my decisions, but all of my decisions are why I am where I am today! So take a look at your decisions,
how'd you get to where you are standing today? Ever think about that?
Tuesday, August 2, 2011
Back in Full Swing
Ahhhh, no summer is not officially over, but the day in and day out of sunning, swimming, and playing is getting old. You know what it's like when you just need a break from the weather and some form of change. Well I am ready for some form of a schedule. Sleeping in, drinking 2 pots of coffee, and sunning till 3PM is starting to bore me. I know I am lucky gal to be given this opportunity to find what I love in life and have the time to reflect and most importantly answer to next to no one has been a very wonderful eye opener!
Not many will be able to say they had this opportunity in their lifetime. For me, I am truly blessed and thankful for the life I have been able to lead these last few months. So what to do and how to get the program started? Lots of people have judgement on others, I wonder why they feel the need or obligation to judge. A dear friend just recently had made a stunning statement, "I wouldn't want him to bitch or try to change who I am as a person or what I like to do". This statement just floored me, and what a way to think!
You know each of us have our ways about why and how we do things. None of them are right. They just make sense to us, the person we are. I might get kicked in the butt for mentioning this but it's only because it hit so close to home. One of the Kardashian girls has a child with who she thinks was an alcoholic, I think. A preview for a future episode was that she was making a statement of hoping that Scott didn't come this far just to end back in the same spot he was. Oh the world and the way situations are all so similar no matter who you are is just an intense realization. I wonder sometimes what others think. Look at their family they have just about everything, she fell in love with a guy who has some problems. The other two hotties, have demanded better treatment for themselves. Gonna let that statement go since I am sure somehow it will get me into some sort of trouble. Since I am a nobody talking about a somebody. :)
Just shocking to me, that it's all on what we demand for ourselves. Mind over matter is such a bold statement and expecting more for ourselves is what we get in return. Expect respect and youi get respect, accept bad treatment and continue to receive. We teach others on how to treat us. So much of this is being thrown into my face. A number of layers at that. My children, my boyfriend, my dogs, my family. Each of them treat me the way I allow them to treat me. What an eye opener. And this little essay is really just a babble. Hmmm what I have just taught me is a lot. Wonder how you interpreted this. Let me know! Have a fab day! Give your best and most importantly expect the best! All is a full circle see what comes back your way!
Not many will be able to say they had this opportunity in their lifetime. For me, I am truly blessed and thankful for the life I have been able to lead these last few months. So what to do and how to get the program started? Lots of people have judgement on others, I wonder why they feel the need or obligation to judge. A dear friend just recently had made a stunning statement, "I wouldn't want him to bitch or try to change who I am as a person or what I like to do". This statement just floored me, and what a way to think!
You know each of us have our ways about why and how we do things. None of them are right. They just make sense to us, the person we are. I might get kicked in the butt for mentioning this but it's only because it hit so close to home. One of the Kardashian girls has a child with who she thinks was an alcoholic, I think. A preview for a future episode was that she was making a statement of hoping that Scott didn't come this far just to end back in the same spot he was. Oh the world and the way situations are all so similar no matter who you are is just an intense realization. I wonder sometimes what others think. Look at their family they have just about everything, she fell in love with a guy who has some problems. The other two hotties, have demanded better treatment for themselves. Gonna let that statement go since I am sure somehow it will get me into some sort of trouble. Since I am a nobody talking about a somebody. :)
Just shocking to me, that it's all on what we demand for ourselves. Mind over matter is such a bold statement and expecting more for ourselves is what we get in return. Expect respect and youi get respect, accept bad treatment and continue to receive. We teach others on how to treat us. So much of this is being thrown into my face. A number of layers at that. My children, my boyfriend, my dogs, my family. Each of them treat me the way I allow them to treat me. What an eye opener. And this little essay is really just a babble. Hmmm what I have just taught me is a lot. Wonder how you interpreted this. Let me know! Have a fab day! Give your best and most importantly expect the best! All is a full circle see what comes back your way!
Thursday, April 28, 2011
Are you Living Your Dream?
Many are asked at a young age ,"what do you want to be when you grow up". Little minds have no idea what to make of this question. Many have dreams beyond their capabilities, such as a little boy who wants to be a famous football player or a rock star. Over time, the dream is altered, a little more thought is put into it and soon he realizes the woork it takes to be that football player or rock star. It's funny how big the dreams are when the little minds are at work. The work to be put into that dream is not even a thought to be considered, just the end result. It's so simple in their mind to be that football star or the rock star.
Awe remember when the life dream seemed so easy? Then grown up reality sets and and life is just a little bit harder than it looked when Mom and Dad were running the show. So are you letting the struggle get in the way? Are you working your dream job? Do you have your dream home?
Life is so simple when it comes down to what makes us happy. A nice meal with firends, a few new pair of shoes, a smile on our kids' face, finding a great deal at a second hand store or a yard sale. Here's hoping all of us have our dreams within reach and happiness fills our lives.
Awe remember when the life dream seemed so easy? Then grown up reality sets and and life is just a little bit harder than it looked when Mom and Dad were running the show. So are you letting the struggle get in the way? Are you working your dream job? Do you have your dream home?
Life is so simple when it comes down to what makes us happy. A nice meal with firends, a few new pair of shoes, a smile on our kids' face, finding a great deal at a second hand store or a yard sale. Here's hoping all of us have our dreams within reach and happiness fills our lives.
Wednesday, April 27, 2011
Are You in my Stats?
Biggest thrill I have with this blog is seeing my stats. It's gives me a sense of growth. Something, I think, all of us like to see. It's like earning money almost. When I see I've had 10 page views I feel all kinds of giddiness inside. The feeling is just amazing, but why?
I write about things that make me think with positivity, I try more than anything to give a feel to my post that I got up on the right side of the bed. Looking at the bright side, seeing the glass half full. I have little to complain about and have realized quickly that what I can't control I shouldn't worry about and what I can control if I am complaining about it, than I better change it.
Life is too short to have bitterness. Always show forgiveness, never take for granted, and tell those dear to yoru heart that you love them!
Isn't it time you start showing up in my stats?
I write about things that make me think with positivity, I try more than anything to give a feel to my post that I got up on the right side of the bed. Looking at the bright side, seeing the glass half full. I have little to complain about and have realized quickly that what I can't control I shouldn't worry about and what I can control if I am complaining about it, than I better change it.
Life is too short to have bitterness. Always show forgiveness, never take for granted, and tell those dear to yoru heart that you love them!
Isn't it time you start showing up in my stats?
Saturday, April 23, 2011
CDM?
Customer Direct Marketing, what is it? Sounds pretty direct to me, the customer is directly involved with marketing. Have you ever thought about what you are paying for advertising? Yes, you! All of the products you buy at Walmart, Kmart, Aldies, Wegmans where ever you shop at? Consumers pay for the advertising and marketing that goes into the products we choose to purchase.
Yes it starts with the company, of course, they have to put up the thousands of dollars it takes to market and advertise their new products. To keep up with competitors they have to come up with the next best thing. What if you found out that instead of paying an already rich and famous to persuade you into trying new products let it be you that helps persuade a friend into trying new products.
But let's talk about these new products. What if you were told the products advertised on TV have all the fillers in them to help the maker of the product to get a larger bang for their buck. It's actually extimated the buyer is paying 60% towards the advertising which leaves 40% to what goes into the product. That's 60 cents to the dollar going towards advertising leaving only 40 cents for quality product.
Why am I writing about this? Well I have found amazing products that are talked about through and only through Customer Direct Marketing. I joined the team in January of 2011, I purchased a view of the products and to say the least fell totally in love with all of the products I tried and have no problem talking about them with those dear to my heart, and would refer anyone to the company. They have excellent customer service, products are delivered to your door, and they are products we use daily and need monthly if not weekly.
Wouldn't you like to take part in Customer Direct Marketing? Contact me today or click on the icon to the right "working for yourself...Not by yourself" Start Today!
Yes it starts with the company, of course, they have to put up the thousands of dollars it takes to market and advertise their new products. To keep up with competitors they have to come up with the next best thing. What if you found out that instead of paying an already rich and famous to persuade you into trying new products let it be you that helps persuade a friend into trying new products.
But let's talk about these new products. What if you were told the products advertised on TV have all the fillers in them to help the maker of the product to get a larger bang for their buck. It's actually extimated the buyer is paying 60% towards the advertising which leaves 40% to what goes into the product. That's 60 cents to the dollar going towards advertising leaving only 40 cents for quality product.
Why am I writing about this? Well I have found amazing products that are talked about through and only through Customer Direct Marketing. I joined the team in January of 2011, I purchased a view of the products and to say the least fell totally in love with all of the products I tried and have no problem talking about them with those dear to my heart, and would refer anyone to the company. They have excellent customer service, products are delivered to your door, and they are products we use daily and need monthly if not weekly.
Wouldn't you like to take part in Customer Direct Marketing? Contact me today or click on the icon to the right "working for yourself...Not by yourself" Start Today!
Thursday, April 21, 2011
Building a Business~ What's it take?
Are you tired of having your future lay in your boss's hands? Take the stand and find you niche and run with it. This day in age, anything is possible. If you have drive, dedication, and support, there should be nothing in your way that can stop you!
There are so many opportunities on the internet that give all of us an option to start a home business. Whether it's homemade products, at home party business, marketing, or data entry. You can make a choice to work from home and love it. Here are the steps to follow:
First : Make the decision to work for yourself.
This is a heavty role to committ to, so when you make that decision, decide your hours of work, decide your level of dedication, make these decisions and stick with. The most meaningful quote I heard when making this decision is ask yourself, "Would I have fired myself today?".
Second : Don't spread yourself too thin.
Working from home means just that, you are working in your home and home needs to matter too. Keep the balance, in step one you already decided your hours. This is where that matters, making a list will help tremendously here. Making a business means selling yourself. But remember why you decided to work at home, for many of us we stay home to be with our kids, but need to feel like we are contributing. If you are home for your kids. Schedule your working hours around them. Make those sort or sacrifices.
Third : Expect challenges, share frustrations, and learn from failures.
Admit you are up against a big world out there! You have a dream but you will have a lot in your way. No matter your dedication, no matter your drive. Something along the way will crash into the momentum... Expect this! Talk about this frustration, if not talk write about share the challenge help someone else learn from it. When you allow yourself to learn from a mistake whether it's your mistake or anothers, you are giving yourself the ulitmate lesson. You learned what not to do next time.
Fourth : Don't push!
We see it all the time, a new consultant throwing their new business ideas all around. Don't be pushy! Don't be aggressive! Most importantly don't get angry. We all like a certain spice about life. The spice you've chosen to sell might not be for a few of your friends. Understand, respect, and thank them for at the very least allowing you the opportunity to show them your new adventure. Just becuase a few people aren't in love with your idea, does not mean they never will be. Be open to this possibility and no matter what never be angry from a no thank you. Be thankful for the opportunity. If anything look at as another opportunity to learn more about your business and how you want to present.
Fifth and final : Be You!
Always be yourself! You decided this fate you decided on this business, Embrace it and make it yours!!! Be confident with it, always show confidence even if you aren't certain give the posture that you are. No one else is going to walk thru your front door and tell you what will and will not work with Your business! Own it, Love it, and Be a confident You!!
So I am guilty of not following a number of these steps... But I believe in each of them. I believe that these steps are the core to a business builder. I feel confidence can carry a person straight to the top. Allowing others to make the decision to love what you are doing is the only way to succeed. Making them feel they need you opposed to you needing them is the true meaning of a successful business and business builder!
Any business you choose, choose it and work it!!! Once the decision is made focus and work! This is what it takes!!!
There are so many opportunities on the internet that give all of us an option to start a home business. Whether it's homemade products, at home party business, marketing, or data entry. You can make a choice to work from home and love it. Here are the steps to follow:
First : Make the decision to work for yourself.
This is a heavty role to committ to, so when you make that decision, decide your hours of work, decide your level of dedication, make these decisions and stick with. The most meaningful quote I heard when making this decision is ask yourself, "Would I have fired myself today?".
Second : Don't spread yourself too thin.
Working from home means just that, you are working in your home and home needs to matter too. Keep the balance, in step one you already decided your hours. This is where that matters, making a list will help tremendously here. Making a business means selling yourself. But remember why you decided to work at home, for many of us we stay home to be with our kids, but need to feel like we are contributing. If you are home for your kids. Schedule your working hours around them. Make those sort or sacrifices.
Third : Expect challenges, share frustrations, and learn from failures.
Admit you are up against a big world out there! You have a dream but you will have a lot in your way. No matter your dedication, no matter your drive. Something along the way will crash into the momentum... Expect this! Talk about this frustration, if not talk write about share the challenge help someone else learn from it. When you allow yourself to learn from a mistake whether it's your mistake or anothers, you are giving yourself the ulitmate lesson. You learned what not to do next time.
Fourth : Don't push!
We see it all the time, a new consultant throwing their new business ideas all around. Don't be pushy! Don't be aggressive! Most importantly don't get angry. We all like a certain spice about life. The spice you've chosen to sell might not be for a few of your friends. Understand, respect, and thank them for at the very least allowing you the opportunity to show them your new adventure. Just becuase a few people aren't in love with your idea, does not mean they never will be. Be open to this possibility and no matter what never be angry from a no thank you. Be thankful for the opportunity. If anything look at as another opportunity to learn more about your business and how you want to present.
Fifth and final : Be You!
Always be yourself! You decided this fate you decided on this business, Embrace it and make it yours!!! Be confident with it, always show confidence even if you aren't certain give the posture that you are. No one else is going to walk thru your front door and tell you what will and will not work with Your business! Own it, Love it, and Be a confident You!!
So I am guilty of not following a number of these steps... But I believe in each of them. I believe that these steps are the core to a business builder. I feel confidence can carry a person straight to the top. Allowing others to make the decision to love what you are doing is the only way to succeed. Making them feel they need you opposed to you needing them is the true meaning of a successful business and business builder!
Any business you choose, choose it and work it!!! Once the decision is made focus and work! This is what it takes!!!
Wednesday, April 20, 2011
Is turning into your mom really that bad?
Oh we hear it all the time, I realized today I am my mother. Well is that really that bad? Oh how funny, being that teenager and in our early twenties, we know EVERYTHING, don;t we? I am just shocked of where I was and where I am with my views, and how I want to raise my kids to view the world. Yes I have my own ways of how I parent and that is good when mixed in with the way my parents raised me.
With age comes wisdom. Only 31 years into this life; I have so much to learn and yet have learned so much. Did you think when you were growing up you would actually start wanting to be like your mom or even your parents? I sure never thought I would have so much respect for my parents. But life does a 180 and what you thought you would never be, you actually become. Well for some of us!
Many of us grow up wishing to be as far away from where we grew up. Many of us follow that path. For me, absence made the heart grow fonder. Never thought I would be the one living a block from my parents. That's what happened. Absence was what made my heart need and want my family close by. I realized quickly, my family was and is my rock. I needed them, I wasn't the personality to move on and make me a new world.
Proudly, I moved back, made more very dumb decisions. Finally, I realized my calling, being a mom. My son was born and everything fell into place for me. No he didn't come with a manual but my love for him was my guide. I nourished him and went to my mom for help surprise, surprise she was there. That unconditional love from her gave me the confidence a new mom needs. Her openness to help and step in and out was so amazing. It certainly wasn't like that through my teen years. I was a dare devil, I stepped into the life that was defintily more risky that I would hope for my very children. I can see now why she wanted to try to keep me safe.
I hope that when my kids are teenagers and in that stage I am just like my mom. I hope and pray my children are nothing like I was, chances are they will be just the same, little hellians. I see my hair turning gray super fast, I see me losing many battles, and I see my children challenging me the way I challenged my parents. Though that is a lengthy 10 years away. I still am dreading it. I am affraid of the things they will choose to try. I tried and did far too many things at too young an age. So for me, becoming my mother is not going to be bad at all, in fact, becoming my mother would be a pleasure. Yes there are traits I am hoping skip me, but ya know what there are traits I already have in me I wish I didn't. Seeing those flaws and working on improving them is always an option.
This path is not nesecarily true for all, I am sympathetic to those who were not born to a loving mother, a mother who raised them with all the support and tenderness in which I was raised. For those peole, I can only hope they have the understanding that though their biological mom wasn't that person, somebody else was. Though there are others that had no one to care and love for them. These people have a unique challenge in life. All of us have a different path. I can acknowledge many are not as lucky as I was and am. I hope for many they have been able to find their purpose and reason in life. Good Luck to all!
This post is for my mom pictured below with her four beautiful grandchildren!! She's an amazing woman!!!
With age comes wisdom. Only 31 years into this life; I have so much to learn and yet have learned so much. Did you think when you were growing up you would actually start wanting to be like your mom or even your parents? I sure never thought I would have so much respect for my parents. But life does a 180 and what you thought you would never be, you actually become. Well for some of us!
Many of us grow up wishing to be as far away from where we grew up. Many of us follow that path. For me, absence made the heart grow fonder. Never thought I would be the one living a block from my parents. That's what happened. Absence was what made my heart need and want my family close by. I realized quickly, my family was and is my rock. I needed them, I wasn't the personality to move on and make me a new world.
Proudly, I moved back, made more very dumb decisions. Finally, I realized my calling, being a mom. My son was born and everything fell into place for me. No he didn't come with a manual but my love for him was my guide. I nourished him and went to my mom for help surprise, surprise she was there. That unconditional love from her gave me the confidence a new mom needs. Her openness to help and step in and out was so amazing. It certainly wasn't like that through my teen years. I was a dare devil, I stepped into the life that was defintily more risky that I would hope for my very children. I can see now why she wanted to try to keep me safe.
I hope that when my kids are teenagers and in that stage I am just like my mom. I hope and pray my children are nothing like I was, chances are they will be just the same, little hellians. I see my hair turning gray super fast, I see me losing many battles, and I see my children challenging me the way I challenged my parents. Though that is a lengthy 10 years away. I still am dreading it. I am affraid of the things they will choose to try. I tried and did far too many things at too young an age. So for me, becoming my mother is not going to be bad at all, in fact, becoming my mother would be a pleasure. Yes there are traits I am hoping skip me, but ya know what there are traits I already have in me I wish I didn't. Seeing those flaws and working on improving them is always an option.
This path is not nesecarily true for all, I am sympathetic to those who were not born to a loving mother, a mother who raised them with all the support and tenderness in which I was raised. For those peole, I can only hope they have the understanding that though their biological mom wasn't that person, somebody else was. Though there are others that had no one to care and love for them. These people have a unique challenge in life. All of us have a different path. I can acknowledge many are not as lucky as I was and am. I hope for many they have been able to find their purpose and reason in life. Good Luck to all!
This post is for my mom pictured below with her four beautiful grandchildren!! She's an amazing woman!!!
Tuesday, April 19, 2011
How to Become Successful?
How do YOU become successful? The last I checked Success isn't something available at a supermarket. It's something you find inside of you. You measure your idea of success, you decide if you want to push or sit on the sidelines.
Success is within and only within, it doesn't grow on trees and isn't handed to you in the office. My idea of success is having happy children and having a home to raise them in. The means I use to get to that success, well still trying to figure that out. Although the means isn't streamlined, my success is a reality. We have extremely delightful and happy children and our home is all that I've ever dreamed of.
Doesn't success change from time to time? Absolutely, when in college or let's say high school what was your dream of success? I know for me becoming the captain of my high school softball team, was my senior year of success. Oh my what a dream come true with that reality hit me. I was on fire that practice, seemed that whole season went pretty smooth for me. So I got my success, was that it? Were my dreams done? Hell No, next challenge, next conquer!
So where's the kicker in becoming a success? If it's my measurement then why don't I feel successful? Well that starts with those around you. Not everyone is going to believe in your dream and your potential for success. This is where many of us cower down, we hear that inkling of doubt and take it as inevitable failure. I do it, all the time. I have big dreams great ideas. Then, I talk about it to friends and family, problem is, the enthusiasm isn't there. In my mind, I think, well I guess it wasn't that great of an idea any way. So sad, as growing people we allow for one small lack of enthusiasm stage our momentum. I am guilty of it, probably more so than most. My dreams come and go as fast as the sun sets.
That change in dreams, doesn't at all hinder my desire for success. I have already stated what is success to me and that I've achieved it.
A few years back my success was measured by also having a career. I was working in an office. I wanted to be the boss, I wanted to rule the roost. It was only a short 18 months or so and I succeeded. Accomplishing that goal was an amazing achievement for me. In fact, for me all of my goals thus far have been reached in my short life... Just 31, turning 32 this May. I am a little nervous to look ahead and think "hmmmm am I going to be as lucky in the next years, will I be able to fulfill my dreams still". Then I get this feeling all through me, what do you mean lucky? Achieving all of those "successes" wasn't the luck of the draw, or being at the right place at the right time. Getting those achievements and becoming the Leader was what was meant to happen becuase I didn't give up, I didn't sit on the sidelines. I dreamt and I acted. I gave my all, my dedication was admired and my measurements of success became my reality.
So How do you become Successful? You decide what is successful, what do I have to do to get there, and what are my challenges, will I let them get me down? You decide if success happens, nobody else! Good Luck!!
Be kind, expect little, and give a lot!
Enjoy!
Success is within and only within, it doesn't grow on trees and isn't handed to you in the office. My idea of success is having happy children and having a home to raise them in. The means I use to get to that success, well still trying to figure that out. Although the means isn't streamlined, my success is a reality. We have extremely delightful and happy children and our home is all that I've ever dreamed of.
Doesn't success change from time to time? Absolutely, when in college or let's say high school what was your dream of success? I know for me becoming the captain of my high school softball team, was my senior year of success. Oh my what a dream come true with that reality hit me. I was on fire that practice, seemed that whole season went pretty smooth for me. So I got my success, was that it? Were my dreams done? Hell No, next challenge, next conquer!
So where's the kicker in becoming a success? If it's my measurement then why don't I feel successful? Well that starts with those around you. Not everyone is going to believe in your dream and your potential for success. This is where many of us cower down, we hear that inkling of doubt and take it as inevitable failure. I do it, all the time. I have big dreams great ideas. Then, I talk about it to friends and family, problem is, the enthusiasm isn't there. In my mind, I think, well I guess it wasn't that great of an idea any way. So sad, as growing people we allow for one small lack of enthusiasm stage our momentum. I am guilty of it, probably more so than most. My dreams come and go as fast as the sun sets.
That change in dreams, doesn't at all hinder my desire for success. I have already stated what is success to me and that I've achieved it.
A few years back my success was measured by also having a career. I was working in an office. I wanted to be the boss, I wanted to rule the roost. It was only a short 18 months or so and I succeeded. Accomplishing that goal was an amazing achievement for me. In fact, for me all of my goals thus far have been reached in my short life... Just 31, turning 32 this May. I am a little nervous to look ahead and think "hmmmm am I going to be as lucky in the next years, will I be able to fulfill my dreams still". Then I get this feeling all through me, what do you mean lucky? Achieving all of those "successes" wasn't the luck of the draw, or being at the right place at the right time. Getting those achievements and becoming the Leader was what was meant to happen becuase I didn't give up, I didn't sit on the sidelines. I dreamt and I acted. I gave my all, my dedication was admired and my measurements of success became my reality.
So How do you become Successful? You decide what is successful, what do I have to do to get there, and what are my challenges, will I let them get me down? You decide if success happens, nobody else! Good Luck!!
Be kind, expect little, and give a lot!
Enjoy!
When Stress Overwhelmes Us..
How to deal with stress that is over the top? What happens when work, life, and family have taken it's toll on you? Most of us will shut down, some will become moody, some will outrage at the one closest to them, some will do all of the above. Why does stress turn the most gentle person into an unapproachable person and why does it seem we aren't able to confront the "right" demon?
Well for many of us not willing to have a confrontation is the reason we do any of the above outcomes. The best way to handle stress is first find it root, are you stress because of work, family issues, finances? Finding the root helps get right to the problem, only if you are able to tackle that particular problem.
What to do if it is a coworker? What to do if it is finances that you can't pull through? Well, teh only thing you can do address it and see where it goes. You can't change things that aren't in your controld must of us stress over things that are out of our control. Have you gone home from a stressful work day becuase everything and anything went wrong? What part of that where you able to control? I'll bet on maybe 20% if that. How about when a few of your appliances break down? Any control in that? Maybe you put too many towels in your washing machine, that you can control. Anything else, is a pretty strong certainty that you have no control over. Why do we stress over things we can't control?
Ever thought of the path we were meant to walk? Stress is evil, it's evilness gets into our minds, bodies, and souls and does the talking and reacting for us. How often have you thought back and realized that wasn't you talking? First question, are you able to apologize and admit you were wrong. Second question, do you think about the chain of events that occurred for you to have reacted in a regretful way?
Speaking for myself, it used to be that a stressful day would happen I would come home and didn't so much react to much but would be very distant and just thankful for that day to be over. After the stress came to be day in and day out I became that devil. I yelled about anything and everything at my family, my friends, my coworkers, and my boss. It took me a good few months to realize what was at the root. I had continually assumed it was everyone else. I was reacting as I should, until my reality set in and I was the one being out of line. I made the change that needed to happen for me. With that decision a new set of rules is in play a new line of stress is going to grow into my world. How do I avoid this not getting too deep for me to handle?
My advice to me and the any of you that have these thoughts.
First, stop wanting to have the control! Second, reflect on the day see what you enjoyed see what brought you down and avoid the downer! Third, when something happens that does bring pressure/stress/anger let it go on the spot. Someone pisses you off, laugh about it, but realize why it pissed you off. Are you being too sensitive? Are you overreacting?
I am pretty sure the saying goes, Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. You react positively, positive things will happen. You react negatively, the cloud of negativity will linger above.
Well for many of us not willing to have a confrontation is the reason we do any of the above outcomes. The best way to handle stress is first find it root, are you stress because of work, family issues, finances? Finding the root helps get right to the problem, only if you are able to tackle that particular problem.
What to do if it is a coworker? What to do if it is finances that you can't pull through? Well, teh only thing you can do address it and see where it goes. You can't change things that aren't in your controld must of us stress over things that are out of our control. Have you gone home from a stressful work day becuase everything and anything went wrong? What part of that where you able to control? I'll bet on maybe 20% if that. How about when a few of your appliances break down? Any control in that? Maybe you put too many towels in your washing machine, that you can control. Anything else, is a pretty strong certainty that you have no control over. Why do we stress over things we can't control?
Ever thought of the path we were meant to walk? Stress is evil, it's evilness gets into our minds, bodies, and souls and does the talking and reacting for us. How often have you thought back and realized that wasn't you talking? First question, are you able to apologize and admit you were wrong. Second question, do you think about the chain of events that occurred for you to have reacted in a regretful way?
Speaking for myself, it used to be that a stressful day would happen I would come home and didn't so much react to much but would be very distant and just thankful for that day to be over. After the stress came to be day in and day out I became that devil. I yelled about anything and everything at my family, my friends, my coworkers, and my boss. It took me a good few months to realize what was at the root. I had continually assumed it was everyone else. I was reacting as I should, until my reality set in and I was the one being out of line. I made the change that needed to happen for me. With that decision a new set of rules is in play a new line of stress is going to grow into my world. How do I avoid this not getting too deep for me to handle?
My advice to me and the any of you that have these thoughts.
First, stop wanting to have the control! Second, reflect on the day see what you enjoyed see what brought you down and avoid the downer! Third, when something happens that does bring pressure/stress/anger let it go on the spot. Someone pisses you off, laugh about it, but realize why it pissed you off. Are you being too sensitive? Are you overreacting?
I am pretty sure the saying goes, Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. You react positively, positive things will happen. You react negatively, the cloud of negativity will linger above.
Sunday, April 17, 2011
A So Called Writer....
"I'm a so called writer!" I saw this on a hub and it got me some motivation. How do you call yourself a writer unless you have been published? Well I am not published. This is my personal blog and I have 4 followers, which I think is pretty cool! Until I do some research and this so called writer I referenced has over 400 followers, now that is cool!
I love to write, if I have the thoughts rolling from my mind, when they are lost inside though, I find this delightful hobby of mine to be quite challenging. So when I saw his opening line... he is a "so called writer" I had to take a peek.
After reading only a few hubs, I realized he writes with honesty, he writes what's on his mind with little editing (if it is, it's un-noticed). So here goes, my unedited honesty...
I feel I can bring a lot to the table, I put what I think on paper and if you read it excellent, if you don't so be it, if you respond AWESOME, if you respond negativly just as well, now we have something to discuss.
For me, an argument is a chance to dig dip into anothers views, for many others an argument is about being right. So with that I ask, why do you need to be right? Why must everything be your way? I am pretty sure there's over 1000 different ways to die so why do you have to be right? This is what I want to ask that person who thinks everything they say is right all of the time... I mean really, is it possible? wouldn't that technically mean there's only one way of looking at things, or doing things? So with that said, is that what it's about being right and having things one way? Is that how it's supposed to be? Isn't it all about discussion, coming to a conclusion that best suits the situation? Not about being right? Not about your way and my way!
So I will call myself a writer until someone proves to me I am not. Let's start the discussion....
I love to write, if I have the thoughts rolling from my mind, when they are lost inside though, I find this delightful hobby of mine to be quite challenging. So when I saw his opening line... he is a "so called writer" I had to take a peek.
After reading only a few hubs, I realized he writes with honesty, he writes what's on his mind with little editing (if it is, it's un-noticed). So here goes, my unedited honesty...
I feel I can bring a lot to the table, I put what I think on paper and if you read it excellent, if you don't so be it, if you respond AWESOME, if you respond negativly just as well, now we have something to discuss.
For me, an argument is a chance to dig dip into anothers views, for many others an argument is about being right. So with that I ask, why do you need to be right? Why must everything be your way? I am pretty sure there's over 1000 different ways to die so why do you have to be right? This is what I want to ask that person who thinks everything they say is right all of the time... I mean really, is it possible? wouldn't that technically mean there's only one way of looking at things, or doing things? So with that said, is that what it's about being right and having things one way? Is that how it's supposed to be? Isn't it all about discussion, coming to a conclusion that best suits the situation? Not about being right? Not about your way and my way!
So I will call myself a writer until someone proves to me I am not. Let's start the discussion....
Friday, April 1, 2011
Focus and Dedication is all You Need to get Anything Done!
Why did you play a sport in high school, or an instrument, or why did you go to college to be a lawyer, a teacher, a manager? Because you had a goal! You have to spend money to make money, this is why you pay for your college education, in the sport you played you practiced your mom or dad had to pay fees to keep you involved. Right now my son is in karate and the fees for him to play are not cheap and when he leaves his practice I tell him to practice at home. Live is a short journey you have to make of it what you want out of it.
If you love your job and your extracurricular activities you are on the path you were meant to be on. If you are like me, have been in love with your job, fell out of love with your job and want to be and need to be happy with where you end up.... Then you have to figure out the goal and run with, work on it everyday, realize that each day you wake up, isn't the day you will become rich, you have to work hard to play hard and to earn hard. Great things happen to those with dedication, hard work, and big dreams.
Those people that giggle when you show them all the excitement about where you will be in 5 years. Let them giggle, giggle along, it's a great accomplishment to dream and dream big, pat yourself on the back for it! When they make fun of you about you making strides in being successful, laugh with them, and just be you! You are the only one that knows what is right for you. Mom and Dad raised you, you have lived your life as best you know how. You have decided on your career, you have decided on your style, it's you that makes the decisions, do you still make your bed in the morning? I just threw that in there becuase I don't, I don't always have a clean house, but I am always working on getting my name out there. I have a 5 year plan. I have the business plan that goes along with it. I have to take one day at a time and hope that each day I step closer to the end result!!
If you need motivation, be the train that says, "I think I can" you will be surprised if you tell yourself you can make something happen how quickly it comes true! It takes a lot of focus and a lot of dedication with those you have nothing but success in front of you!!
Give it your all, and at the end of the day know your regrets will be few and far between!!
Have a FaB DaY!!!
If you love your job and your extracurricular activities you are on the path you were meant to be on. If you are like me, have been in love with your job, fell out of love with your job and want to be and need to be happy with where you end up.... Then you have to figure out the goal and run with, work on it everyday, realize that each day you wake up, isn't the day you will become rich, you have to work hard to play hard and to earn hard. Great things happen to those with dedication, hard work, and big dreams.
Those people that giggle when you show them all the excitement about where you will be in 5 years. Let them giggle, giggle along, it's a great accomplishment to dream and dream big, pat yourself on the back for it! When they make fun of you about you making strides in being successful, laugh with them, and just be you! You are the only one that knows what is right for you. Mom and Dad raised you, you have lived your life as best you know how. You have decided on your career, you have decided on your style, it's you that makes the decisions, do you still make your bed in the morning? I just threw that in there becuase I don't, I don't always have a clean house, but I am always working on getting my name out there. I have a 5 year plan. I have the business plan that goes along with it. I have to take one day at a time and hope that each day I step closer to the end result!!
If you need motivation, be the train that says, "I think I can" you will be surprised if you tell yourself you can make something happen how quickly it comes true! It takes a lot of focus and a lot of dedication with those you have nothing but success in front of you!!
Give it your all, and at the end of the day know your regrets will be few and far between!!
Have a FaB DaY!!!
Thursday, March 31, 2011
Make a Metal Heart Garland
Hello There!!!
My project for today is the Garland of metal hearts as seen here. This particular set is approximately 48" long, all the hearts range in sizes. I have this particular piece on ebay for $6.99 with shipping cost, if you are interested in purchasing the garland please send me the length you require, I will provide a quote. Local Pick up would be ideal, shipping is available at an additional charge.
Have a FaB DaY!!!
Wednesday, March 30, 2011
Frame an American Flag
Hey there! I just thought I would share with you my most recent craft.
In creating this craft,
1. My first step was to of course pull apart the framed art work (teddy bear with Now I lay me down to sleep prayer)
2. I had a silk flag from my Grandfather that I aged by dipping in out tea this gave it the look I wanted.
3. I painted the the backing/support of the white frame brown.
4. I sanded down the edges of the white frame to, again, give it the aged look.
5. I layed the flag onto the support made it a little uneven to give it the blowing in the wind look and closed up the frame.
If you have any questions on the craft send me a message, this craft will not be sold but I plan on creating more just like it. If you would be interested in purchasing this craft please let me know.
Have a FaB DaY!!
Friday, March 25, 2011
A Flaw is the Imperfection that Makes you You!
Hey Friends! Really happy it's finally Friday, Not to mention the sun is out. Still cold but great to feel the Vitamin D!
So how many of your friends have flaws? What a question, right? I ask this because I have some major flaws and my friends they have flaws to, but wanted to talk about how and why it's important to see the flaws as sometimes their best feature...and sometimes not.
First, how many of you are perfect? .... I didn't think so. Perfection is over rated, who wants to perceive themselves as not having any flaws nor having any problems? For many of us, no actually all of us, our flaws and our problems and our wrong doings are the reason we are who we are.
Your friends, your parents, your spouses, your children, coworkers, etc are going to make a mistake. Each of you have a choice on how you react, that is the only choice you have in the matter. Do you dwell or move forward? Many fights we have in our lives are not the breaking points in our different levels of relationships. It's actually how we choose to react that is the chain of events that starts the breaking point.
I guess the advice I would like to hear at this point is, what happens when I am not forgiven when I admit to a wrong doing, or rather things don't go back to the "way the were". If that is the case, it's unfortunate but again, it's how you react. You have to let it go, move on, and learn!
I have to admit for me, this has been an ongoing lesson I seem to have to relearn near monthly, maybe even more.
So my advice to me and others out there that haven't yet noticed it's your reaction.... Take a number of deep breaths and do not react to anything until you have a grip on why you have the feeling, why you want to point a finger, and why you have any business in it to begin with.
Flaws are part of what sets me apart from you. Just remember we all have our quirks, our choices, and our ways about life. For me, I know the flaws I experience mold me each time. I see a new layer of myself, sometimes I shed and sometimes I don't, and all depends on what I learned from it.
Hope you've enjoyed my Friday Feelings and may your weekend be filled with delightful moments!!
Have a FaB DaY!!!
So how many of your friends have flaws? What a question, right? I ask this because I have some major flaws and my friends they have flaws to, but wanted to talk about how and why it's important to see the flaws as sometimes their best feature...and sometimes not.
First, how many of you are perfect? .... I didn't think so. Perfection is over rated, who wants to perceive themselves as not having any flaws nor having any problems? For many of us, no actually all of us, our flaws and our problems and our wrong doings are the reason we are who we are.
Your friends, your parents, your spouses, your children, coworkers, etc are going to make a mistake. Each of you have a choice on how you react, that is the only choice you have in the matter. Do you dwell or move forward? Many fights we have in our lives are not the breaking points in our different levels of relationships. It's actually how we choose to react that is the chain of events that starts the breaking point.
I guess the advice I would like to hear at this point is, what happens when I am not forgiven when I admit to a wrong doing, or rather things don't go back to the "way the were". If that is the case, it's unfortunate but again, it's how you react. You have to let it go, move on, and learn!
I have to admit for me, this has been an ongoing lesson I seem to have to relearn near monthly, maybe even more.
So my advice to me and others out there that haven't yet noticed it's your reaction.... Take a number of deep breaths and do not react to anything until you have a grip on why you have the feeling, why you want to point a finger, and why you have any business in it to begin with.
Flaws are part of what sets me apart from you. Just remember we all have our quirks, our choices, and our ways about life. For me, I know the flaws I experience mold me each time. I see a new layer of myself, sometimes I shed and sometimes I don't, and all depends on what I learned from it.
Hope you've enjoyed my Friday Feelings and may your weekend be filled with delightful moments!!
Have a FaB DaY!!!
Wednesday, March 23, 2011
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
Reward Yourself with What You Love
Usually it takes just a few sentences to give me an idea on what to write.
Today it's
"Do you remember what it feels like to create for its own sake?
Make less money and more happiness.
Sell less, help people more.
Market less, create more."
Found this on a blog by Skellie ~ wish I was better at posting links on here but I have always said each day we learn a new lesson...
So the title of the post where these motivational words came from on the blog is called Creating without Ulterior Motives. So prior to my finding these few sentences, I wanted to write about Everyone having Ulterior Motives, thinks to this blogger I have a much different view. Not everyone has Ulterior Motives! So I must rethink.
Back to the words that have motivated this post. What is your dream? Think about that and then reread the few sentences above. For me writing is what I love. I can create and touch 4 people, maybe more maybe less, and have my happiness with it. I am realizing the just creating is what makes it fun. Start getting paid for it, then it feels like work. I hope that with my blog I bring light to some peoples thoughts, make sense on situations, show a growth from then until now. I find this opportunity to be rewarding just in the thought of having it out there for anybody to find. Not sayign the anybody is nobody, but for instance the blog that I pulled these words from motivated me, what about it something I write motivates another? A beautiful possibility.
Another beautiful point to make, is that today's world makes this possible, my sharing & creating, your sharing & creating. We all have the ability to do what makes us happy just for the sake of it. So keep your focus and follow your heart. Do what makes you happy. Each situation you find yourself, can and will bring a new opportunity. Just takes a few moments for you to realize the opportunities available and then run with them.
So whatever your dream, where ever your motivation is born from. Keep it close and create for the pleasure of it, someday it could pay back but if it doesn't, there is still a reward for you, it's what you love and your passion gives you the only drive that matters.
I hope you find value in my words, I hope your days are all that you wish them to be.
Again this is me, building confidence one post at a time. Have a fabulous day!
Today it's
"Do you remember what it feels like to create for its own sake?
Make less money and more happiness.
Sell less, help people more.
Market less, create more."
Found this on a blog by Skellie ~ wish I was better at posting links on here but I have always said each day we learn a new lesson...
So the title of the post where these motivational words came from on the blog is called Creating without Ulterior Motives. So prior to my finding these few sentences, I wanted to write about Everyone having Ulterior Motives, thinks to this blogger I have a much different view. Not everyone has Ulterior Motives! So I must rethink.
Back to the words that have motivated this post. What is your dream? Think about that and then reread the few sentences above. For me writing is what I love. I can create and touch 4 people, maybe more maybe less, and have my happiness with it. I am realizing the just creating is what makes it fun. Start getting paid for it, then it feels like work. I hope that with my blog I bring light to some peoples thoughts, make sense on situations, show a growth from then until now. I find this opportunity to be rewarding just in the thought of having it out there for anybody to find. Not sayign the anybody is nobody, but for instance the blog that I pulled these words from motivated me, what about it something I write motivates another? A beautiful possibility.
Another beautiful point to make, is that today's world makes this possible, my sharing & creating, your sharing & creating. We all have the ability to do what makes us happy just for the sake of it. So keep your focus and follow your heart. Do what makes you happy. Each situation you find yourself, can and will bring a new opportunity. Just takes a few moments for you to realize the opportunities available and then run with them.
So whatever your dream, where ever your motivation is born from. Keep it close and create for the pleasure of it, someday it could pay back but if it doesn't, there is still a reward for you, it's what you love and your passion gives you the only drive that matters.
I hope you find value in my words, I hope your days are all that you wish them to be.
Again this is me, building confidence one post at a time. Have a fabulous day!
Monday, March 21, 2011
Book Review ~ Tuesday's with Morrie by Mitch Albom
Today I finished a fabulous book, "Tuesday's with Morrie" by Mitch Albom. What a wonderful book so well written I felt like I was right there with them. I hope that soon I realize a lot better the lessons Mitch was being taught over those few months.
I don't want to give any of this book away. But talking about how a loved one or friend being on their death bed seems to sadly keep us so distant from them. I certainly know for me, I will definitly avoid at any cost the site of seeing any person, whether it be a family member or not, in pain let alone on their death bed. This book I hope has helped me to realize death bed or not they are still alive who ever it is. They have the same humor as I would remember them, they have the same eyes, and still like the same foods. For one reason or another the outside of them has been warped so as to not allow the true person shine through.
Oh how this subject terrifies me. The thought of death scares me to pieces most of us I am sure feel this same way. If you feel this way I highly recommend this book. It may help to make you realize that the person in the body is still there it's the body that is leaving. I just was so moved by this one. I admitted to a couple of friends I couldn't finish the book, I knew what was going to happen I just didn't want it to end.
Hope you read it. Hope you love it. And hope I can get another great read in my hands in a few days.
I don't want to give any of this book away. But talking about how a loved one or friend being on their death bed seems to sadly keep us so distant from them. I certainly know for me, I will definitly avoid at any cost the site of seeing any person, whether it be a family member or not, in pain let alone on their death bed. This book I hope has helped me to realize death bed or not they are still alive who ever it is. They have the same humor as I would remember them, they have the same eyes, and still like the same foods. For one reason or another the outside of them has been warped so as to not allow the true person shine through.
Oh how this subject terrifies me. The thought of death scares me to pieces most of us I am sure feel this same way. If you feel this way I highly recommend this book. It may help to make you realize that the person in the body is still there it's the body that is leaving. I just was so moved by this one. I admitted to a couple of friends I couldn't finish the book, I knew what was going to happen I just didn't want it to end.
Hope you read it. Hope you love it. And hope I can get another great read in my hands in a few days.
Saturday, March 19, 2011
Today is one of those days!!
Hey there all!! Just want to first tell the few of you who read my posts thanks!! Every so often I check out my stats and surprisingly I do have just a few readers, hey something is better then nothing.
How many of you have been burned in your life/career? I don't necessarily believe in getting burned on the job. You see someone is making money from you unless of course you are the one who is making the products, advertising them, and deliverying them but even then I think someone gets the best of you. All of us are someone else's puppet, it's what we make of our time as the main character that gets us to where we need or want to be.
What happens when you been had? Do you retaliate? Not a good idea if you see potential? Do you make negative comments? Again, not a good idea. I was told by my momma that if you can't kill the king you better not open your mouth. So true, I had this happen in my most recent position. I guess I didn't try to kill any kings or anything but I certainly tried to make a roar, if you will. People, companies, groups, teams no one likes a pot stirer. So are you that person?
Well I am here to tell you that just because that is the saying you shouldn't just sit down because someone says so. Okay, if you are in high school sit down that teacher has a say. And for now my friend just wait until you are out of school to turn into a pot stirer... Well that one was a joke. I have always believed whole heartedly in making the stand I beleived in. I am not so wise to think there isn't any hope for change. Many of your parents are going to someday say.... Now that isn't the best characteristic to have.... Well in my eyes, it's the only characteristic to have. If you are being walked on and someone is pointed the finger on how high you should jump, not giving you a rebuddle. Get out. They want to be the master. All of us of that in us. All of us can say to the little kid who is bullying the other, knock it off. You aren't any better than him. Keep your voice loud and keep it clear. Soon none of us, will have that stand. Soon if we let it happen we could be walking down the road where all the shutters are the same and the porches all have the swings and no one has bikes or flowers everything is shrubbery. Soon if you lose your voice so will your child, and his, and hers.
I hope this rant is giving some of you a reason to tell your neighbor to quit swearing at his kid, or stop bitching about the news, or to stop complaining about the gas companies about to tare up your back yard. Get with it people.... Some things we can control and some things we can't. Chose your battles, and love those all around you. Someday all you will have to offer is your voice and your opinion. If that person you want to confront isn't man enough to accept your opinion. What good is he or she? Why are they in your life? Is it a pay check? Let me ask you this. is that cell phone you are paying for on a monthly basis necessary? What about your tv, really need that? When things were simple and cancer was to a minimum doctors still came to your house. I'm pretty sure kids did chores, respected elders, didn't watch TV ~ didn't have TV ~ and from what I understand.... Phones weren't around either and I can't be too certain of this but I remember hearing someone in my family say they could call maybe 3 friend MAYBE!! So when you hear grandma bitchin about how times are changing and things are bad. When I was a kid 27 years ago. I could still get a pack of gum for 0.50 I just bought a pack for my car and paid over 2 bucks... Guess what ALL we get gum MAybe once every 6 months.
Why is this my post today? Miracles are few and fair between. Things in life aren't free. We need to work for what we believe in. No one knows their neighbors anymore. Marriages are more likely to fail than to succeed ~ I hope this isn't true for those of you reading this who are married, I have the thought of a failed marriage which is why I don't agree with them.
Most importantly, few of us on this earth live like we were dying.... Could today be your last? YES, it definitly could be. Where's that money going to get you today???
WOW I hope this hasn't offend any of you. We have our moments. This my value added content. It's not sunshine and roses, when you have a bad day. Just remember so can I, but tomorrow will be a new day. And a better post I'm sure. I hope you enjoy my words and share my content.
I love this blogging thing!!!! And just so you know~~~ This is Just ME!
How many of you have been burned in your life/career? I don't necessarily believe in getting burned on the job. You see someone is making money from you unless of course you are the one who is making the products, advertising them, and deliverying them but even then I think someone gets the best of you. All of us are someone else's puppet, it's what we make of our time as the main character that gets us to where we need or want to be.
What happens when you been had? Do you retaliate? Not a good idea if you see potential? Do you make negative comments? Again, not a good idea. I was told by my momma that if you can't kill the king you better not open your mouth. So true, I had this happen in my most recent position. I guess I didn't try to kill any kings or anything but I certainly tried to make a roar, if you will. People, companies, groups, teams no one likes a pot stirer. So are you that person?
Well I am here to tell you that just because that is the saying you shouldn't just sit down because someone says so. Okay, if you are in high school sit down that teacher has a say. And for now my friend just wait until you are out of school to turn into a pot stirer... Well that one was a joke. I have always believed whole heartedly in making the stand I beleived in. I am not so wise to think there isn't any hope for change. Many of your parents are going to someday say.... Now that isn't the best characteristic to have.... Well in my eyes, it's the only characteristic to have. If you are being walked on and someone is pointed the finger on how high you should jump, not giving you a rebuddle. Get out. They want to be the master. All of us of that in us. All of us can say to the little kid who is bullying the other, knock it off. You aren't any better than him. Keep your voice loud and keep it clear. Soon none of us, will have that stand. Soon if we let it happen we could be walking down the road where all the shutters are the same and the porches all have the swings and no one has bikes or flowers everything is shrubbery. Soon if you lose your voice so will your child, and his, and hers.
I hope this rant is giving some of you a reason to tell your neighbor to quit swearing at his kid, or stop bitching about the news, or to stop complaining about the gas companies about to tare up your back yard. Get with it people.... Some things we can control and some things we can't. Chose your battles, and love those all around you. Someday all you will have to offer is your voice and your opinion. If that person you want to confront isn't man enough to accept your opinion. What good is he or she? Why are they in your life? Is it a pay check? Let me ask you this. is that cell phone you are paying for on a monthly basis necessary? What about your tv, really need that? When things were simple and cancer was to a minimum doctors still came to your house. I'm pretty sure kids did chores, respected elders, didn't watch TV ~ didn't have TV ~ and from what I understand.... Phones weren't around either and I can't be too certain of this but I remember hearing someone in my family say they could call maybe 3 friend MAYBE!! So when you hear grandma bitchin about how times are changing and things are bad. When I was a kid 27 years ago. I could still get a pack of gum for 0.50 I just bought a pack for my car and paid over 2 bucks... Guess what ALL we get gum MAybe once every 6 months.
Why is this my post today? Miracles are few and fair between. Things in life aren't free. We need to work for what we believe in. No one knows their neighbors anymore. Marriages are more likely to fail than to succeed ~ I hope this isn't true for those of you reading this who are married, I have the thought of a failed marriage which is why I don't agree with them.
Most importantly, few of us on this earth live like we were dying.... Could today be your last? YES, it definitly could be. Where's that money going to get you today???
WOW I hope this hasn't offend any of you. We have our moments. This my value added content. It's not sunshine and roses, when you have a bad day. Just remember so can I, but tomorrow will be a new day. And a better post I'm sure. I hope you enjoy my words and share my content.
I love this blogging thing!!!! And just so you know~~~ This is Just ME!
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
Book Review ~ Crush It by gary vay ner chuk
Excellent book for the New and Upcoming Marketer.
What I got from this book?
Were some excellent ideas and great motivation on how to grab people and pull them in, get them traffic'd to my website. He puts all the ingredients right in his book as a blueprint on how to market yourself and how to get people to love you without being pushy, but with being true to who you are. He states in this book how internet is the new form of resumes and such. Which is so true, I have no fear of putting myself out there by just being me. This book gave me a confidence and a new insight on what and where the internet is headed for.
A great read. You probably won't find a negative review as I can't exactly continue to read a book that bores me. So I hope you read this book expecially if you are in need of a new direction in your life. This book gets you to see the real you and what and how You have something to offer the internet.
Have a great day!!!
What I got from this book?
Were some excellent ideas and great motivation on how to grab people and pull them in, get them traffic'd to my website. He puts all the ingredients right in his book as a blueprint on how to market yourself and how to get people to love you without being pushy, but with being true to who you are. He states in this book how internet is the new form of resumes and such. Which is so true, I have no fear of putting myself out there by just being me. This book gave me a confidence and a new insight on what and where the internet is headed for.
A great read. You probably won't find a negative review as I can't exactly continue to read a book that bores me. So I hope you read this book expecially if you are in need of a new direction in your life. This book gets you to see the real you and what and how You have something to offer the internet.
Have a great day!!!
Saturday, March 12, 2011
Building Confidence ~ Conquering struggles, how to stay positive.
So growing up I was always told you always remember the bad stuff, meaning, I could recall a terrible fight my parents and I had had and probably have about 10 to choose from. On the contrary, when thinking of moments that were the good moments they kind of are easily forgotten about, until of course there is a reminder of them. Like for me, to this day, when I have dinner at my parents house for some reason my dad and I will somehow turn our dinner into something to have a belly laugh over. I certainly have plenty of happy moments, not trying to say my younger days were filled with bad moments, I probably have the same ridiculous stories most people do from their teenage years. Why is this my topic? Well it's a lot easier to let yourself give up. That is why, when you have a goal in mind there has to be reasons that help you to stay focused. Did I have a bad day today? Yeah I guess I did, not that it was a bad day more a dissappointing day. So how do I get out of a rut such as this? Well how can I show success unless I show the struggle? Right? I mean how many spectacular people in this world do you think stepped right into the spotlight? Just about none of them. I can garuntee that. Just like when I played on my softball team my coach had us training on Diving for balls. I was the athlete that when the ball got passed me I asked for another one, "give me another one coach" that practice I can remember like it was yesterday. For me, I knew not practicing on getting better would get me no where. So rule of thumb when you have goals, you have to stay focused revisiting them more than just once a day. It must become what you eat, sleep, & breath. If you don't believe that ask an olimpic athlete how much they have trained since the last games. Same with a corporate leader when do you think the last time he or she was out on a double date for pleasure it's all business once you get into the big seat no matter the path you take no matter the out let.
So Back to showing how to get past the struggle. I can remember my practice where I was asking for a bout a dozen balls to be hit my way just out of reach so I could dive.... You could imagine what my team mates were thinking as I was diving and missing diving and missing. Finally I got one, it landed in my glove and the rest was history. I mastered the dive. It was that season where very few balls went through my position I was the 2nd baseman. I loved those plays, and each time I would make the play it really felt like the first time. It's the same thing as when you seal a deal if you are in sales or marketing, the emotions take over, your jsut can't help but give yourself a "Hell Yeah". It's an amazing thrill. But with my "bad" day, I doubted me, I doubted my soon to be customers, I showed them I had doubt in turn made them feel doubt. You see how bad that negativity can affect the possibility of yoru business growing? You can never let the other guy see the stress or fear. Confidence has to always sit on your shoulders ALWAYS, if your not feeling cinfident, either figure out how to fake it or reschedule till you are confident.
How do you get to the top and stay at the top?
1. To Struggling means to grow, how often have you heard what doesn't kill you will make you stronger? SO TRUE!!!
2. Confidence should always be what you are wearing, being dresses for success is what it is all about My #1 belief is Success starts with Confidence!
3. Learn it till you know it! Knowledge is power and so is experience, give yourself the opportunity to learn what you need to know. We all start at the bottom, knowledge and experience is how you get to the top. This process is how you will gain your RESPECT.
4. Always be up front and honest. Speak what you think and always allow others to have opinions. Your way is not the only way! Change is how we grow!
Getting to the top can be referred to getting the friendship, the job, the date, the new customer, the promotion. You can and should use these tools for every day living. My new career choice has granted me already a number of new wonderful friendships. As long as I follow my 4 steps above I can't go wrong, my possibilities will continue to open, just by being honest, open, welcoming, confidence, gaining knowledge and most importantly admitting and overcoming stuggles.
I hope you found valuable content in this post!
HAVE A FABULOUS DAY!!
So Back to showing how to get past the struggle. I can remember my practice where I was asking for a bout a dozen balls to be hit my way just out of reach so I could dive.... You could imagine what my team mates were thinking as I was diving and missing diving and missing. Finally I got one, it landed in my glove and the rest was history. I mastered the dive. It was that season where very few balls went through my position I was the 2nd baseman. I loved those plays, and each time I would make the play it really felt like the first time. It's the same thing as when you seal a deal if you are in sales or marketing, the emotions take over, your jsut can't help but give yourself a "Hell Yeah". It's an amazing thrill. But with my "bad" day, I doubted me, I doubted my soon to be customers, I showed them I had doubt in turn made them feel doubt. You see how bad that negativity can affect the possibility of yoru business growing? You can never let the other guy see the stress or fear. Confidence has to always sit on your shoulders ALWAYS, if your not feeling cinfident, either figure out how to fake it or reschedule till you are confident.
How do you get to the top and stay at the top?
1. To Struggling means to grow, how often have you heard what doesn't kill you will make you stronger? SO TRUE!!!
2. Confidence should always be what you are wearing, being dresses for success is what it is all about My #1 belief is Success starts with Confidence!
3. Learn it till you know it! Knowledge is power and so is experience, give yourself the opportunity to learn what you need to know. We all start at the bottom, knowledge and experience is how you get to the top. This process is how you will gain your RESPECT.
4. Always be up front and honest. Speak what you think and always allow others to have opinions. Your way is not the only way! Change is how we grow!
Getting to the top can be referred to getting the friendship, the job, the date, the new customer, the promotion. You can and should use these tools for every day living. My new career choice has granted me already a number of new wonderful friendships. As long as I follow my 4 steps above I can't go wrong, my possibilities will continue to open, just by being honest, open, welcoming, confidence, gaining knowledge and most importantly admitting and overcoming stuggles.
I hope you found valuable content in this post!
HAVE A FABULOUS DAY!!
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
Trial & Error
Well.... This branding yourself and DNA babble I was referring to from the most awesomist book "Crush It" is pretty cool and most definitly a fun experimentation. Also, learning some tricks from my team about how to drive traffic to A website.
These are the few things I have been experimenting with in step by step "protocol"
Step 1: Add Value to your readers. So how much value is it to them when you are crying for a following? "Hey Look at me" ~ Not Much Value, eh? Hence, the interesting reads, eye catching articles, informative techniques, anything that you have knowledge on other than just what you are selling would be creating a larger following. So they say. My experiment here is to just be me, my positive self. Then throw a funny post here, a personal post there, something work related there. Keeping an interest in a multitude of followers not just the ones you want to streamline.
Step 2: Don't give up. If someone showed interested don't bombard them with your content, just drop in here and there kind of to remind them your still out there. If & when they are interested in checking it out.
Step 3: Help others. Take into consideration that if you have a few others working on this type of Marketing whether it be the same business or not sharing content can and will broaden the marketing group. Case in point, right now I have only 2 followers, I just started this only a few short weeks ago. I am not growing but I am putting content out there. Those 2 followers though may have 10 followers, hence I may have just moved my small 2 to a not so small 12 in followers, helping my content reach a few more friends.... Who might just start liking my posts and realize they will want to follow what I am writing about....
Make Sense. This isn't all that I have learned from the book Crush It. So all you business builders, I encourage you to get the book and read it. I have another book on the way hoping to get another AWESOME Lesson from it.
I started working For MySelf, Not By Myself in January 2011. This is a genuine experience and wonderful Experiment for me. Hoping y'all have A FAB Day...
These are the few things I have been experimenting with in step by step "protocol"
Step 1: Add Value to your readers. So how much value is it to them when you are crying for a following? "Hey Look at me" ~ Not Much Value, eh? Hence, the interesting reads, eye catching articles, informative techniques, anything that you have knowledge on other than just what you are selling would be creating a larger following. So they say. My experiment here is to just be me, my positive self. Then throw a funny post here, a personal post there, something work related there. Keeping an interest in a multitude of followers not just the ones you want to streamline.
Step 2: Don't give up. If someone showed interested don't bombard them with your content, just drop in here and there kind of to remind them your still out there. If & when they are interested in checking it out.
Step 3: Help others. Take into consideration that if you have a few others working on this type of Marketing whether it be the same business or not sharing content can and will broaden the marketing group. Case in point, right now I have only 2 followers, I just started this only a few short weeks ago. I am not growing but I am putting content out there. Those 2 followers though may have 10 followers, hence I may have just moved my small 2 to a not so small 12 in followers, helping my content reach a few more friends.... Who might just start liking my posts and realize they will want to follow what I am writing about....
Make Sense. This isn't all that I have learned from the book Crush It. So all you business builders, I encourage you to get the book and read it. I have another book on the way hoping to get another AWESOME Lesson from it.
I started working For MySelf, Not By Myself in January 2011. This is a genuine experience and wonderful Experiment for me. Hoping y'all have A FAB Day...
Tuesday, March 8, 2011
Sunday, March 6, 2011
Saturday, March 5, 2011
Try, Try, Try Again!
So today I am realizing that unless you attempt something or step out of your comfort zone how will you ever know what your limit is?
How can you be shot down if you don't ask or attempt whatever it is you need/want to accomplish. Why wouldn't you just put yourself out there for someone to say yes, you never know what they are going to say. I am realizing more and more that the title of this post is the only way to go. So what if someone says know, the next person may just say yes. If at first you don't succeed try again cause sooner or later you will someone is bound to say Yes. There is a quote out there if you don't start how will you finish it? I will have to find that and put it in with my favorite quotes.
So make an attempt to step out of your comfort you will be surprised at what you can accomplish!!!
Have a FAB day!!
How can you be shot down if you don't ask or attempt whatever it is you need/want to accomplish. Why wouldn't you just put yourself out there for someone to say yes, you never know what they are going to say. I am realizing more and more that the title of this post is the only way to go. So what if someone says know, the next person may just say yes. If at first you don't succeed try again cause sooner or later you will someone is bound to say Yes. There is a quote out there if you don't start how will you finish it? I will have to find that and put it in with my favorite quotes.
So make an attempt to step out of your comfort you will be surprised at what you can accomplish!!!
Have a FAB day!!
Wednesday, March 2, 2011
Why the Positivity?
Have you ever noticed when one thing goes wrong just about everything goes wrong? I sure have and lately it is becoming more and more obvious that attitude plays a lot into how I perceive things. Am I always so delightful and happy and have no frustrations? Absolutely not, but I try very hard to not allow the worst of things get the best of me. I have a lot to be thankful for, if this blog gives some the support they need than I will be delighted that my positivity can give others a reason to be hopeful, or smile, or feel understood. I am hoping this can open up a support for others. I have always loved helping people see the good they hold inside. I finally was able to see the good I have inside is seeing the good in others, holding no grudges, and being a positive and optimistic personality.
Another Great Quote!!!
Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else. ~Judy Garland
Tuesday, March 1, 2011
Things are not Always what They Appear.....
Things do not pass for what they are, but for what they seem. Most things are judged by their jackets. ~Baltasar Gracian
Friday, February 25, 2011
Wearing what Matters most, Your Expression
Janet Lane's quote make a whole lot of sense to me this morning.
Out of all the things you wear, Your expression is most important.
How many times have you been at a check out where the clerk who wasn't wearing a smile. How plaseant was that experience? I guess I have been guilty of not wearing my smile. The funny thing about it is that when I am smiling I am pleasant, approachable, and in a better mood. I am more apt to make small conversation. On the contrary, when I am, I guess I would call it mopey, I feel sad, I feel pissy and moody, easily irritated. These are all very negative feelings. So her quote makes complete sense. Wear a smile, and happiness will follow.
I hope your smile brings you great opportunities today.
Make each day count!
Out of all the things you wear, Your expression is most important.
How many times have you been at a check out where the clerk who wasn't wearing a smile. How plaseant was that experience? I guess I have been guilty of not wearing my smile. The funny thing about it is that when I am smiling I am pleasant, approachable, and in a better mood. I am more apt to make small conversation. On the contrary, when I am, I guess I would call it mopey, I feel sad, I feel pissy and moody, easily irritated. These are all very negative feelings. So her quote makes complete sense. Wear a smile, and happiness will follow.
I hope your smile brings you great opportunities today.
Make each day count!
Thursday, February 24, 2011
Branding Yourself?
Hmmm??? So branding yourself by writing or talking about your passion is the next "In" thing..... What is your passion? What will you be making your life of, do you love what you do. Are you being yourself. Do you wake up each day and jump out of bed likes it's your last? If not, why not? Why do most of us allow ourselves to be the ones being had by our employers. Why do we give all the we have to them, when we need to be giving it all to ourselves?
I started reading "Crush It" by Gary Vaynerchuk. The paragraph above kind of sums up what he has told me thus far in his book. A very good read, I must add. So why aren't more people jumping on the wagon of this suggestion? Why are there so many of us out there working on our boss's dreams instead of our own. What is scarring most of us into being employed by someone else opposed to branding ourselves and making our own name.
How many of you a delighted every morning when you wake up and are ready to take on the world based on your boss's expectations? I was that person at one point I was delighted to be where I was at in my career and life, then POFFF it all went away in a flash of an eye. How many people realize that they really are replacable in their boss's eyes? You are, each and everyone of you has a direction you want to lead.... If that direction does not suit your boss, you will become worthless to him/her. Your direction must always benefit them.... But ask yourself today how does their direction help you. Pretty hard question to answer. It doesn't all it gets you is the same paycheck you have been receiving for however long you have been employed by them. But if you are the boss if it's your path your direction your call.
Why is that so frightening? Why is it that so many of us are afraid of failure of the evil eye and sympathetic looks or gestures. I have a lot of dreams, I guess this will have to be my outlet to push through and see if this works. He says writing about your passion is and will get you where you desire to be. Have a plan, think about my future, be passionate, love what you do and the passion comes back around. I can see where he is going with this. I like energetic people, I like to get opinions and give them. I like to listen to people talk about things they love and hobbies they enjoy. I don't like to read boring books, I don't like when people talk about interesting things or when they talk in a monotone voice. I like excitement. There's a lot of things in this world I am not an expert on, but one thing I am an expert on is me. I have my personality, my voice, my experiences to help me succeed same as every one else.
Recently, I was the employee who didn't follow my boss's direction. Therefore, I became replacable. Reality set in for me that I was giving my best for him it wasn't good enough. So I sat back and I thought about why I was giving him my best every day when I could give it to me. I could come home, be with my family and make something else work. I am a survivor. I can do anything I put my mind too. So My venture started near 4 months ago. So we will begin to track this success through my blog.
I will begin to brand me Today!
He says to find your passion, so I guess I have to decide what my passion is. I haven't really figured that out yet. I like to take a situation and make the best of it. I try very hard to look at negatives and find the positive. I have been an extremely fortunate person. Very few struggles, a lot of wonderful people have come and gone in my life. My goal in life is just to provide for my family, I hope that someday my words will help others. My quote I posted today was from Robert Frost~ Freedom Lies in Being Bold. I choose this one as because of my boldness I was able to get freedom and happiness back. I wasn't about to dance to a song I knew was impossible for me to succeed. Each of us knows our limits and it's only us that can have that voice. If you are in a position where others are using you are their puppet the next time you look in the mirror think about the dance you want to create. This should be analyzed into what makes you happy why should we go through as the chorus when we most definitly can be the creator of the lyrics.
Another awesome point made in Gary's book, there are different levels of success we are our limits of how successful we want to be. You have become the director in your home, why can't you be the director of your block or your kids school, or the family functions, it could be anything the possibilities are endless. You are the one responsible for the end point. ****When referring to director you lead as far as you want to lead**** It's all up to YOU!
I started reading "Crush It" by Gary Vaynerchuk. The paragraph above kind of sums up what he has told me thus far in his book. A very good read, I must add. So why aren't more people jumping on the wagon of this suggestion? Why are there so many of us out there working on our boss's dreams instead of our own. What is scarring most of us into being employed by someone else opposed to branding ourselves and making our own name.
How many of you a delighted every morning when you wake up and are ready to take on the world based on your boss's expectations? I was that person at one point I was delighted to be where I was at in my career and life, then POFFF it all went away in a flash of an eye. How many people realize that they really are replacable in their boss's eyes? You are, each and everyone of you has a direction you want to lead.... If that direction does not suit your boss, you will become worthless to him/her. Your direction must always benefit them.... But ask yourself today how does their direction help you. Pretty hard question to answer. It doesn't all it gets you is the same paycheck you have been receiving for however long you have been employed by them. But if you are the boss if it's your path your direction your call.
Why is that so frightening? Why is it that so many of us are afraid of failure of the evil eye and sympathetic looks or gestures. I have a lot of dreams, I guess this will have to be my outlet to push through and see if this works. He says writing about your passion is and will get you where you desire to be. Have a plan, think about my future, be passionate, love what you do and the passion comes back around. I can see where he is going with this. I like energetic people, I like to get opinions and give them. I like to listen to people talk about things they love and hobbies they enjoy. I don't like to read boring books, I don't like when people talk about interesting things or when they talk in a monotone voice. I like excitement. There's a lot of things in this world I am not an expert on, but one thing I am an expert on is me. I have my personality, my voice, my experiences to help me succeed same as every one else.
Recently, I was the employee who didn't follow my boss's direction. Therefore, I became replacable. Reality set in for me that I was giving my best for him it wasn't good enough. So I sat back and I thought about why I was giving him my best every day when I could give it to me. I could come home, be with my family and make something else work. I am a survivor. I can do anything I put my mind too. So My venture started near 4 months ago. So we will begin to track this success through my blog.
I will begin to brand me Today!
He says to find your passion, so I guess I have to decide what my passion is. I haven't really figured that out yet. I like to take a situation and make the best of it. I try very hard to look at negatives and find the positive. I have been an extremely fortunate person. Very few struggles, a lot of wonderful people have come and gone in my life. My goal in life is just to provide for my family, I hope that someday my words will help others. My quote I posted today was from Robert Frost~ Freedom Lies in Being Bold. I choose this one as because of my boldness I was able to get freedom and happiness back. I wasn't about to dance to a song I knew was impossible for me to succeed. Each of us knows our limits and it's only us that can have that voice. If you are in a position where others are using you are their puppet the next time you look in the mirror think about the dance you want to create. This should be analyzed into what makes you happy why should we go through as the chorus when we most definitly can be the creator of the lyrics.
Another awesome point made in Gary's book, there are different levels of success we are our limits of how successful we want to be. You have become the director in your home, why can't you be the director of your block or your kids school, or the family functions, it could be anything the possibilities are endless. You are the one responsible for the end point. ****When referring to director you lead as far as you want to lead**** It's all up to YOU!
Tuesday, February 22, 2011
Today is Where You Begin
Waking up each morning means that you have a choice. A choice to make it a great day or dwell on the things you wish you did differently. Today is your fresh start, it's the first day of the rest of your life. What do you want to do about it?
There's not one person on this earth that 100% proud of every decision they have ever made. Not one person on this earth can look in the mirror and have perfection, none of us were giving the gift of EVERTHING. So when you wake up in the morning just smile, and think of how today it can be better and give it your best. There's so many things in this world to appreciate and experience. If you have ever said, "Awe I wish I had that", or "That is so cool you have neat creativity", or "You are so lucky I don't have that". Just remember for every thing you wish you had someone else wishes they had something of yours.
We weren't created equal nor to be identical. There are many unique charateristics in each us. So when you think you wish you had someone elses feature, outfit, car, home, life. Just remember there are parts in their life they wish they didn't have.
So in short, you are who you are for a reason. Be proud of that and make each decision matter, remember though you may not love everything about your being some of the things you dislike somebody else loves or vice versa. If you start looking inside at all the things you have to offer and work with them may realize you can grow into the person you see in others.
Always put your best foot forward and when someone pays you a compliment say Thank you.
Now what about today, whats going to change for you?
There's not one person on this earth that 100% proud of every decision they have ever made. Not one person on this earth can look in the mirror and have perfection, none of us were giving the gift of EVERTHING. So when you wake up in the morning just smile, and think of how today it can be better and give it your best. There's so many things in this world to appreciate and experience. If you have ever said, "Awe I wish I had that", or "That is so cool you have neat creativity", or "You are so lucky I don't have that". Just remember for every thing you wish you had someone else wishes they had something of yours.
We weren't created equal nor to be identical. There are many unique charateristics in each us. So when you think you wish you had someone elses feature, outfit, car, home, life. Just remember there are parts in their life they wish they didn't have.
So in short, you are who you are for a reason. Be proud of that and make each decision matter, remember though you may not love everything about your being some of the things you dislike somebody else loves or vice versa. If you start looking inside at all the things you have to offer and work with them may realize you can grow into the person you see in others.
Always put your best foot forward and when someone pays you a compliment say Thank you.
Now what about today, whats going to change for you?
Friday, February 4, 2011
Some of my Favorite Quotes!
Have you realized how much your mood can make or break the tone in any converstaion? I finally woke up and saw that my mood was the creator of most if not all of my conversations, since realizing this I have started reviewing and appreciating very much a simple quote. I think they are a great way of capturing a feeling, a moment, or a dream!! So here are a few of my favorites. I hope you like them and they can make your day a little brighter!!
And Just remember stay away from the STINKIN THINKIN!!!
"Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished" ~ Lao Tzu
"It's so hard when I have to, and so easy when I want to" ~Annie Gotlier
"Everyday you spend without a smile, is a day lost" ~ Author Unknown
"People who snore always fall asleep first" ~ Author Unknow
"Turn your wounds into wisdom" ~ Oprah Winfrey
"If you want to test your memory, Try to recall the worries you had one year ago today?" ~E.Joseph Cossman
"Fear cannot take what you do not give it" ~Christopher Coan
These are just a few check back again.
Hope your day is great!!
And Just remember stay away from the STINKIN THINKIN!!!
"Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished" ~ Lao Tzu
"It's so hard when I have to, and so easy when I want to" ~Annie Gotlier
"Everyday you spend without a smile, is a day lost" ~ Author Unknown
"People who snore always fall asleep first" ~ Author Unknow
"Turn your wounds into wisdom" ~ Oprah Winfrey
"If you want to test your memory, Try to recall the worries you had one year ago today?" ~E.Joseph Cossman
"Fear cannot take what you do not give it" ~Christopher Coan
These are just a few check back again.
Hope your day is great!!
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